True Meaning of Surrender

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sur·ren·der  suh-ren-der

verb (used with object)

1.to yield (something) to the possession or power of another; deliver up possession of on demand or under duress: to surrender the fort to the enemy; to surrender the stolen goods to the police.

2. to give (oneself) up, as to the police.

3. to give (oneself) up to some influence, course, emotion, etc.: He surrendered himself to a life of hardship.

4.to give up, abandon, or relinquish (comfort, hope, etc.).

5. to yield or resign (an office, privilege, etc.) in favor of another.

I have been examining the word surrender lately. It has so many negative connotations. Just like many words in the English language. It’s taken on a sinister tone. Surrender – to give up, to yield. Even the definition itself finds nothing positive to say.

In spiritual circles surrender sounds so blissful and peaceful and freeing. Leave it to the new agers to take a negative word and make it positive. But my programming forces me to struggle with the idea that surrendering can be peaceful. I cannot reconcile letting go of what I believe to be right and fair with the idea that if I do it will bring me peace. With every ounce of my being I know it will not.

I like letting go. But, being me, I have to really drill down to see what it is I’m letting go of. I often advise my daughter to choose her battles. I find I’m pretty good at deciding what’s worth fighting for. It’s interesting the words I choose- Battle, fight. How can one surrender with those words being thrown around?

I’ve spent days drilling down surrender, what it means, what’s at stake, what will I give up? How can I “surrender” to bring me peace when I know it won’t? What does winning mean to me? What does it mean for those I’m fighting for who count on me to not surrender?

Yesterday, a really good friend finally cracked the egg for me. I don’t have to surrender to something that is worth fighting for. I have to surrender the fighting. I have to surrender the emotions attached to winning or loosing. I must let go of the attachment to the outcome. Ahhh. If the fight I have chosen is righteous (and who knows what that means! – another blog I guess) Then I should continue, calmly, slowly, and an eye on WHO is waging the battle and for what. Be clean with my intentions, be honest with myself, listen carefully and do not fight the fight, be present to myself and my emotions, but do not let them fight my battles. For that is where we loose.

Everyday we fight a battle for something. Often the fight is righteous. In the macro and the micro. We must stand up for ourselves; to surrender to the attachment does not mean to give up.

To me it makes a better warrior.

Betsy Chasse Co-Creator of the film “What The Bleep Do We Know?!”, Author and Radio host. To find out more, read her past blogs or podscasts of her radio show “Life Unscripted” please visit betsychasse.net

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    Mom, Filmmaker, Author, Radio host and Blogger. Co-Creator of the hit film "What The Bleep Do We Know?!". Betsy Chasse is an internationally known filmmaker, author and speaker. She funny, irreverent and thoughtful in her exploration of all things spiritual. She believes “if we aren’t laughing we aren’t growing and learning.”

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    2 Comments on "True Meaning of Surrender"

    1. martin johnstone 02.14.12 at 10:41 am · Reply

      Hi Betsy. I enjoyed WTBDWK, which i got as soon as it was available here. Only just stumbled on this blog of yours.
      I think that every time we buy a poor quality food product, because we feel rushed, or cant be bothered looking for something better, we are surrendering in the ‘negative’ way – Thats the kind of surrender that is bringing countries and nations to their knees.
      But every time we decide not to get drawn into an arguement, or decide to leave the chores and visit a friend, we also surrender, in this case to the little feeling inside that says we can do something different and better.
      In trust building games, a person often has to close their eyes and fall backwards, trusting that the person behind will catch them. In everyday life, its hard to recognise situations when we can surrender and fall, to be ‘caught,’ but i think it’s important to to look for those situations. I’m glad you brought the subject up. :-)

    2. Stephanie Carlisi 09.11.12 at 12:06 pm · Reply

      Very happy to have stumbled upon your blog, Betsy. WTBDWK has been an absolutely epic part of my life for years. I went on to read How to Break the Habit of Being Yourself, by Dr. Joe Dispenza, connected material which, as well, has been life-changing. I really relate to what you have written here and appreciate your insight and perspecitve on ‘Surrender.’ How real, true, encompassing and important. Thank you,Stephanie

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